Honestly it’s a long story but I got a bunch of red flags. It’s not that I don’t like him but I am just very suspicious.
For me the worst part is that he seems emotionally unavailable. Like he takes so long to respond all the time I honestly think he is seeing other people (if he doesn’t have a wife and kids already, lol).
Last time we saw each other he said we should grab a bite to eat sometime but he hasn’t messaged me at all since then, and I’m realizing this is kind of a pattern with him.
I feel like either he isn’t that interested in me, or … I mean that’s pretty much the only option tbh
So I should just cut him off, right? I mean if he ever does message me I bet it’ll be days from now…
Maybe I’m just too clingy but either way, I don’t think we’re compatible in that case. I’m not used to men being this distant tbh. Usually when I go on a date the guy wants to lock things in really fast and like… cares about maintaining my interest
Edit: in case he does eventually reach out, how can I decline while letting him know why (not cause I didn’t like him but because he doesn’t seem present enough)? Or is it better to just not respond or block him?
I’m mostly worried he will catch me when I’m lonely and then I will make the horrible decision of seeing him again
Whatever the case is, it sounds like your needs aren’t being met.
Maybe you’re crazy, maybe you are clingy and overwhelming. If you haven’t messaged them and they haven’t messaged you in a day or two, that seems unlikely.
Conjecture; Maybe this person is depressed, I know I am bad at communicating when I’m down, but that’s not your problem and they need to get themselves in a stable spot first before they consider dating. (Personal experience talking here)
I would consider moving on, maybe they get back to you later with a really solid reason for being the way they are, but without a firm plan to change and give you what you need, it seems like a FWB situation at best.