courn 안 on Instagram: "small talk is my worst enemy!!! 😤 it’s such a weird thing being perceived as the ✨shy introvert✨ my whole life because I’ve never felt shy 😅…just at a loss of the right words in difficult conversations, struggling to read in between the lines, not understanding when I should speak up, and being overwhelmed by new environments…but I’m LOUD, joyful, and so boisterous once you get to know me! And I’ve found such a similar experience for so many neurodivergent folks - are we shy? Or are we just struggling to conform to neurotypical communication standards? 🤔 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #socialanxiety #communication #communicationskills #hyperfixation #specialinterest #autismawareness #autism #autisticadults #neurodivergent #unmaskingautism #actuallyautistic #autismawareness #latediagnosedautistic #disabilityawareness #audhd"
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2,750 likes, 97 comments - candy.courn on September 8, 2023: "small talk is my worst enemy!!! 😤 it’s such a weird thing being perceived as the ✨shy intr..."
  • handofdumb@lemm.eeEnglish
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    1 year ago

    That’s a bummer that you get unwelcome judgements for thesesorts of things!

    That happened to me a lot in school, as I had clothes I’d wear on specific days of the week and would also often eat the same stuff for lunch every day. Some folks got it (hey, friends!) and some were just nasty about it.

    In my current workplace, while there are questions sometimes, I’m thankful there aren’t unwelcome judgements on both my clothes and my eating habits. Though, when someone asks or comments on my current wardrobe (which consists of multiples of the same black pants, black t shirts, and flannel shirts), I’ve started just saying “I’m in my final phase as an adult goth kid”, as that often turns the conversation around to talking about what sorts of non-typical clothes folks wore in their youth.

    It’s a neat trick and I’m glad it fits for my clothes and my personality because it really helps take some of the conversational pressure off that sort of thing.

    I’m rambling. I just wanted to let you know that I understand and also I hope that those unwelcome judgements happen to you less frequently as time goes on.