• vithigar@lemmy.ca
    641·
    11 months ago

    Both can be true.

    When you’re cultivating a relationship with a real person their wants and desires also factor into your choices, assuming you aren’t a psychopath. They will want different things from you, and keeping that to themselves and never pushing back just makes them miserable and builds resentment. Similarly, you don’t want to impose unreasonable expectations on them. Whether that’s related to their behaviour or their appearance, no one can reasonably expect to get exactly what they want 100% of the time, and that’s part of a healthy relationship.

    …but if you’re constructing an artificial partner from a blank slate that’s completely bespoke to you, to choose anything other than an idealized match for all your desires is frankly insane, and to pretend otherwise is simply disingenuous.

    • Rai@lemmy.dbzer0.com
      171·
      11 months ago

      I got sooooo lucky and just found a copy of me. That’s not what everyone wants, but they’re exactly the perfect match for me. We’re together 24/7 and have been for over a decade. No fights. I wish the same success for everyone who deserves it (everyone who isn’t a piece of shit)!

  • WayTooDank@lemmy.world
    222·
    11 months ago

    Haha yes! I also think that public praise of healthy, stable personalities and realistic body standards is insincere grandstanding.

    • riodoro1@lemmy.world
      122·
      11 months ago

      Everything said by a person when other people are around is a lie to some extent

  • agamemnonymous@sh.itjust.works
    126·
    11 months ago

    I predict that once robotics and AI advanced beyond some particular threshold, human-on-human relationships will be seen as strange and needlessly fetishistic. Who would want some grimey partner with their own needs when you can generate an infinitely moldable soulmate?

    • kromem@lemmy.worldEnglish
      151·
      11 months ago

      Have you ever used cheat codes in games?

      Sometimes dealing with imperfections and adversity is vastly more enjoyable than getting everything you think you want.

      • funktion@lemm.ee
        16·
        11 months ago

        You say that and yet almost any competitive online game is rife with cheaters, while single player games have tons of easily available trainers and god mode mods.

    • surewhynotlem@lemmy.world
      51·
      11 months ago

      It’s like cheat codes in games. That sounds fantastic, but people were very quickly get bored of it.

        • adrian783@lemmy.world
          23·
          11 months ago

          you don’t make your own fastfood, porn or trash tv. so it’s like, completely different. being able to mold your partner doesn’t assume a quick process and shallow results.

      • Pennomi@lemmy.worldEnglish
        22·
        11 months ago

        I strongly disagree. Cheat codes provided infinite possibilities in an otherwise static game. The only reason don’t use cheat codes today is because they evolved into sandbox mode, console commands, and mods. And trust me, Skyrim would be long dead without those.