• moistclump@lemmy.worldEnglish
    553·
    1 year ago

    It’s not necessarily domestic abuse, like the other commenter said. But it does have a flavour of “haha women ammiright?”

    It’s not just women who sulk. It’s okay to take space sometimes from an argument but communicate about that. If the relationship is worth it, address passive aggressiveness as it comes up. Both people in this meme are being passive aggressive.

    Which obviously isn’t the same as domestic abuse so that’s, Yknow, a stretch.

  • Potatos_are_not_friends@lemmy.world
    33·
    1 year ago

    Since there’s so much confusion about this in the comments:

    If you have an argument with your partner, a very common solution is to separate for a bit and get some space, then come back with clear heads and finish the argument like adults.

    That separation - may it be going for a walk, or playing video games, is not disrespectful. It is the person trying to recover from their emotions.

    To use an example: in an intense argument, my wife or I will recognize that things are heating up into shouting match. We each leave the space, and 3-12 hours later, restart the convo gently. I typically go off for a walk. She may go to the bedroom and watch TV.

    If you’re upset at what the other person is doing during your separation time, you are still emotionally affected and are not ready for a talk.

    • ZenFriedRice@lemmy.ml
      611·
      1 year ago

      Woah buddy, domestic abuse feels like a pretty big step here. This just seems petty if anything.

      • killeronthecorner@lemmy.worldEnglish
        251·
        1 year ago

        It’s not just a big step, it’s antithetical to the movements against domestic abuse, because it’s broadening it to mean “any relationship dysfunction that I feel like throwing in the barrel” which cheapens the term by watering it down unnecessarily.

            • HikingVet@lemmy.ca
              12·
              1 year ago

              Considering the person I replied to assumed a cis relationship, I rolled with their assumption, but if you looknat my other comments theybare gender biased.

              • Verqix@lemmy.world
                21·
                1 year ago

                Recheck the comment please, they didn’t mention any gender other than “girl”. You filled in the other gender.

      • HikingVet@lemmy.ca
        1021·
        1 year ago

        Getting upset that your romantic partner doesn’t chase you to apologise is childish. Retaliation for not behaving in a way you want them to crosses the line. Both of which are demonstrated in this meme.

        Should the person starting the PlayStation have done what they have done? Fucked if I know, as it’s situational. But the emotional manipulation thats incoming (or physical violence towards the gamer or their equipment) is heavily implied.

        And that’s only if the argument was for something minor.

        • Solivine@sopuli.xyz
          20·
          1 year ago

          I think you’re right that it is childish, I’m not sure if I would call it abuse though.

        • spauldo@lemmy.mlEnglish
          102·
          1 year ago

          I assume you’re basing the abuse argument on the WWE logo in the corner. Everyone who didn’t notice that (me included, at first) just see a girl with a “how dare he?” look on her face. Which is actually pretty funny.

          In case you’re wondering where all the downvotes are coming from.

          • Mesophar@lemm.ee
            14·
            1 year ago

            Yeah, like, I noticed the WWE logo right away but assumed that was simply where the image of the woman was sourced from, and not intended as part of the joke. I didn’t take any physical violence tones from it at all.

            Couple have argument

            Woman leaves room, expecting to be chased

            Man decides to play games instead

            Woman has shocked Pikachu face

            The Woman wanting to be chased is definitely childish, and possibly emotional manipulation, but I don’t think it’s intentional manipulation. At least, there isn’t enough context in the images alone to say that with certainty. Definitely a bit of a leap.

          • HikingVet@lemmy.ca
            29·
            1 year ago

            I’m basing it off the trope that the guy starts to play a game and the “I’m in danger” quote.

            It speaks to the fact that the gamer is probably doing the right thing and letting emotions cool, where the non gamer is upset at those actions and is in the first stage of an emotional or physical interaction that crosses the line.

            Didn’t really pay attention to the watermark.